Category Archives: Sj’s Musings

double nickles

On this day when I rise with double-nickles in my eyes . . .

I’ve felt so much already . . . and it’s not even 8 o’clock in the morn’.

Eyes wide awake at midnight, I smile.

It’s my birthday!

Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday dear Sj,

Happy Birthday to me.

Giggles in my warm bed.

Giggles of joy to be alive.

Happy Birthday me again, Sj!

And I do.

I sing yet again to myself.

I feel my Dad watching and laughing.

I hear my five year old self call out, “Happy Birthday me again, Daddy!”

And he did.

Again.

And again.

And again.

Until his last time seven years ago.

Awake.

Quietly awake.

Peacefully awake.

And as I lay in my warm bed covered in quilts that my sister made for me,

I gave thanks

To be alive

To be alive

To be alive!

And then the pull of sleep called me to her breast,

until once again I awoke . . .

Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me,

Happy Birthday dear Sj, Happy Birthday to me.

And then fb called my name.

Yes, fb, lol.

I heeded the call.

Read the many loving messages.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Mahalo.

I love YOU!

Happy face.

Hearts galore.

I love you.

I LOVE you.

Again I lay in silence,

Until once again, I awoke.

It’s my Birthday, my Birth

Day.

And as I rose, I saw another message.

One of concern

not for me

but for

another

Worry

Worry

Worry

and what called me instead was

Love

Love

Love

All there is is love.

All there is is love.

On this day when I rise with double-nickles in my eyes . . .

I’ve felt so much already . . . and it’s not even 8 o’clock in the morn’.

. . .

Faith

Hope

and

Love

And the greatest of these

is

Love.

–Sj

lotus water pond

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!!

On this day, I marvel at how life has unfolded.

At the moment, I am alone.
Gratefully home alone in a clean cottage.
A home magically provided when needed.
So very grateful,
So very grateful,
I am.

And I give thanks for this time alone.
This time to simply BE.
For in simply being, I am shown all that life is.
The joy.
The sorrow.
The fear.
The love.
With love ever present.
The foundation.
The roof.
The contents.
Ever present even in the fear.
Or in the sadness
And joy.
LOVE is always there.

And on this day, I give thanks for YOU.
For the part we’ve played in each others’ lives.
For nothing is an accident.
Or coincidence.
But rather each bumping into
and seemingly chance smile,
is a nod from the Divine.
A reminder that we are
LOVED.
That we
ARE
love.

And with this
virtual
bump,
I send
all the love
that I am
to
YOU!!!
x
x
x
o
x
o
x
:
)
Happy
Happy
Thanksgiving!

©2015 Rob Rogers/Pittsburgh Post-Gazette. Reprinted with permission.

Who Are YOU?

Do you know?

In yesterday’s paper, the editorial cartoon by Rob Rogers shows Bruce Jenner on a box of Wheaties. The real Bruce Jenner. The Bruce Jenner that he, or rather she, is today.

“If we celebrated the courage it takes to be your true self . . .”

Yes. If we celebrated everyone who chose to be authentic, the faces on the cover of Wheaties would most likely be as varied as the rainbow.

It takes courage to be real, authentic. The word courage comes from Old French, which comes from Latin: cor “heart.“

It takes living from one’s heart to be courageous.

But in our world, we’re actually conditioned to be someone other than ourselves.

Who do you think you are? You can’t be a ____________, you don’t have the brains, education, connections. Your skin’s the wrong color. You’re stupid. Fat. Ugly.

Each one of us has been told that we’re somehow lacking. Whether from our parents, spouses, teachers, or the media, we’ve each gotten the message that we should be someone other than ourself.

And we’ve bought into it. Literally. We buy all the many things we’re told we need to buy to be: _________________ (fill-in-the-blank).

I’m here to tell you that it’s not true. That it’s a lie.

You are already perfect as you are. You already have within yourself everything you need to be who you came here to be.

Take a breath. A DEEP breath. Connect with your inner-self.

It’s time to be YOUR self. It’s time to be that brand of YOU that no one else can copy. Trademark. Patent.

How do I do that? How do I remember who I’ve come here to be?

First of all, simply BE yourself. That’s who you’ve come here to be – YOU.

Secondly, be still. Be quiet. Unplug.

Make space for yourself everyday to simply sit in the presence of who you are. You may begin to hear little whispers. You may hear the lion’s roar. Or you may simply hear silence. It will be exactly how it needs to be for you.

Today, I challenge you. Be YOUR self. Be brave enough to let the light within you shine forth. I promise you; the world will thank you. : ))))

Also, last week after a 15+ month hiatus, I posted a pep talk. The topic? Be YOUR self. : ) When I saw Rob Rogers’ editorial cartoon yesterday, I thought, “OMG! That would be perfect for the blog glob post for Sj’s Pep Talk: Be YOUR Self!” I wrote to Mr. Rogers last night, and he quickly replied with a YES! Thank you so very, very much Rob!

In closing, Dear Friends, whether I’ve met you in person, in Spirit, or through the internet, please know that I love you and see you for who you truly are.

+Sj

Fido Tomatoes

Life * Death * Life * Death * Life * Death * Life

Fido Remembered

Recently I experienced Ann Randolph’s performance of her most hilarious and inspiring one-woman play, LOVELAND. Afterwards, she invited the audience to stay and write. Ann is also a most dynamic teacher and encourager. She travels the country leading writing workshops. Improvisational acting and various movement activities are used to get everyone’s creative juices flowing. Another teaching technique of Ann’s is to give the participants a “prompt” which they are then to write about for 12 minutes. If you can’t think of what to write at any point during the 12 minutes, you’re to write “What to say, what to say, what to say” until something comes. The idea is to not edit yourself but rather to allow ideas to flow freely.

On this particular evening, after her most outstanding performance of LOVELAND (yup, hated it! Not. : ), she led a short meditation for those who chose to stay (around 15 to 20 people), asking us to think about a time of grief. I closed my eyes and focused on her guidance; nothing came, nothing came, nothing came.

Then she said, “Go.” And suddenly I knew what I was going to write about.

The prompt? A moment in time when we felt grief. And here’s what came (with some slight after-the-fact editing):

What I remember most about this moment is the grass under my feet, toes, and legs. It was damp and a bit sticky just having recently mowed. As I thought of him standing by my side, watching me, I wept.

Then I remembered him opening a coconut, leaving a trail of husks in his wake until he sat down chewing and slurping, coconut water running down his spotted tongue. I simply watched and laughed, enjoying his excitement, his pleasure at opening that coconut and watching me watch him — savoring the moment, the grass, the breeze, the smell. The smell of coconut all over his face running down his noes to his toes.

I remember. I remember. I remember.

And then I realized how I’d been waiting. How I’d been holding my breath waiting for him to turn. To change. To rise up and become a boy. My boy. My little boy. But it never happened. It never happened. And yet I loved him. Adored him. Cherished him as we sat together and watched the sunset. I placed his body on his bed and carried him to the rock wall just steps away from the van. Careful. Careful. Easy. Not to drop him. Not to slip. But to gently set him down so together we could watch the sun set — a fire-ball on the horizon laced with the gentle lap, lap, lap of the waves.

Sigh.

What to say? What to say?

This time with him as he was dying was a gift, and yet I didn’t realize then that he was also giving me a second gift. Cracking my heart wide open, so I could begin to see life for what it really was. Is. The gift it IS to be alive, to breath. The gift that it is now and forevermore. For life doesn’t end with death but simply transforms into another.

So, Fido, to you I give thanks. And always, I give my love, my appreciation that you chose me to be your *caretaker into death. To be there with you, for you, so that we could each cherish the moment as we sat together in silence and watched the tomatoes grow until their plump red bodies were juicy enough to bite into. Fido Tomatoes, I called them. Magical tomatoes born in grief and yet comforting all the same as the juice dripped down my chin, and the taste brought me back to that mid-summer day sitting together in the sun, dirt on my fingers, seeds in my hands, and you watching with complete focus, as these magical seeds spoke of hope and life continued.

Fido Tomatoes on the Vine

Fido Tomatoes on the Vine

*Fido’s Papa, Tony, was also his caretaker, but when writing this, I was thinking of the time Fido and I spent alone.

Dolphin Consciousness

Consciousness

What is consciousness?

ConsciousnessI found this picture on Wikipedia under the page on Consciousness. When I copied the image in order to include it in this post, I noticed that its title features the word Bewusstsein, the German word for consciousness. Interesting. Germans are thinkers; they’ve long been known as thinkers. Hmm, I can hear some of you non-Germans groaning at that statement while remembering a particular period of the 20th Century when Germans weren’t considered to be thinking but rather reacting. Despite that sad and horrible time, I think it’s true that Germans tend to be deep thinkers. So many intellectual topics have their roots, or at least their fingers, in the German thought process.

“Okay,” you ask, “What’s on your mind today Sj?”

Consciousness. Today I’m poking around in the playground of Consciousness or Bewusstsein. When I pry apart that German word, I find that it has two pieces: an adjective (Bewusst) and a verb (sein). Bewusst can be translated into either “conscious” or “aware.” Sein is that ubiquitous verb “to be.” Literally “to be conscious or aware.”

Okay, to be conscious is to be aware.

Wikipedia’s definition also uses the word aware: “Consciousness is the quality or state of being aware of an external object or something within oneself.”

The Apple dictionary in my computer breaks the definition down even further into three parts:

  • 1) the state of being awake and aware of one’s surroundings : she failed to regain consciousness and died two days later.
  • 2) the awareness or perception of something by a person : her acute consciousness of Mike’s presence.
  • 3) the fact of awareness by the mind of itself and the world : consciousness emerges from the operations of the brain.

The third definition is the one that I’m tossing around in my sandbox today, “the fact of awareness by the mind of itself and the world.”

The mind is conscious or aware of itself. It’s a “fact.” Is it?

“Hello Sj, how are you today?”

“Fine thank you. And you?”

“I’m well. Have you noticed that we’re not alone?”

The mind’s also aware or conscious of the world.

“Hello world!”

“The fact of awareness by the mind of itself and the world.”

Is it possible for a person to be aware that they’re NOT aware?

I love that question.

Is it possible for a person to be aware that they’re NOT aware?

Here it is again with a slight tweak.

Is it possible for a person to become aware that they’re NOT aware?

I’d love to hear from you! Feedback. Comments. What do YOU think?

The following YouTube video also addresses this topic, albeit in a completely different way: BUT it’s no longer available when I took a look-see a few years later.

Take a short break from your daily routine, pretty please with a cherry on top : ), and give it a look-see.

And then, I would love to HEAR from you. What are Your thoughts? Your ideas? Your ponderings and bemusements?

You can comment here on my blog glob post OR at my YouTube channel below this video clip.

Let’s start a dialogue to see what you and others think. This isn’t a pop quiz, and there are no wrong answers. If it’s what you think, it’s what you think.

Let’s all keep an OPEN mind and see where this takes us.

It starts simply by taking a moment, a breath, to stop, look, and listen.

D E E P    B R E A T H.

And now, without further ado, click play either ABOVE or here at Sj’s Pep Talk #6: N-o-t-i-c-e.

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p.s. the dolphin photo came from photobucket. Mahalo!

grumpy cat

Ever Felt Grumpy?

And no matter what you did, the Grump just stayed?

Grumpy old man and boyWe all have. We’re human.

And sometimes the Grump just likes to come and sit a spell.

Make itself comfortable as it casts its gloomy shadow and sucks us in.

Taking over.

Setting up camp in our hearts.

“I’m here to stay!” the Grump boldly announces.

Grumpy ManWhether for a season.

Or a day.

Or even an hour.

It  f e e l s  like an  e t e r n i t y  when we’re a Grump.

Ah humbug.

 Poor pitiful me.

 EVERY-one has it better than ME!

That was MEAN what he said.

She said.

They said.

We said.

Mean.

If only this.

If only that.

It’s his fault.

Her fault.

Everyone else’s fault but our own.

Oh, it’s getting me down.

There’s no end in sight.

For the Grump creates an endless circle of fright.

Round and round it goes.

Where it stops, nobody knows.

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“Okay, Sj, I admit it. I’ve been a puddle of gloom and doom before.

A lump of Grump which vowed to show the world just how bad it was so that everyone could see.

It’s so very, very bad.

Can’t you see?”

Yes, I can see.

WE can see.

The gloom.

The doom.

The pool of drool that drips,

drips,

drips.

The lump of Grump which pushes all else aside until we believe there is no hope.

No way out.

Sigh.

Powerless.

We sit and stew.

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What to DO when the Grump arrives?

What do YOU do when you’re a Grump? After it’s landed on your head and oozed down into your heart making a mess of the joy that was there just moments before?

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Grumpy man in wheelchairFive-years ago, a case of the Grumps landed on my Dad. Sitting in a wheelchair unable to walk (just a few weeks after he’d won a 3-hour match in a national tennis tournament), my Dad was thinking, “What the?”

Slumped over in his chair, he brewed.

And stewed.

A Grump.

Feeling sorry for himself.

Seeing no way out.

And then, something c h a n g e d.

I saw it with my own four-eyes.

Somewhere within himself he found the strength to sit-up.

To cast out one kind word.

And then another.

And another.

Soon a fountain of encouragement sprang forth from his personal spring of goodness.

“You can do it!”

“Try again!”

“That’s it!”

Encouraging words flew across the rec hall landing first on a middle-aged woman who’d been paralyzed in a car accident.

Next, they found root in a young man who’d broken his neck in a fall.

One-by-one, I saw the change.

One-by-one, I saw the effects of my father’s words.

“Way to go!”

“That was a solid hit!”

“Good job!”

As this group of spinal cord injured people played volleyball, magic began to happen.

M A G I C.

Sj with her father, November 2008

Sj with her father, November 2008

And it started with my Dad.

The Grump.

Somehow he’d found something to grab onto.

A something that he could stand on.

A something that took him to the other side.

A bridge of sorts manifested itself when he looked within.

When he thought of others.

When he took his eyes off his own sorrow and reached out a helping hand,

in the form of encouraging words.

“You can do it!”

“Try again!”

“That’s it!”

From the depths of despair and self-pity, my Dad found a bridge to the other side.

Dad home on leave in the Smokies

Dad home on leave visiting the Great Smokey Mountains.

How fitting that a man, who built bridges during World War II to replace those that the Germans blew up, would find a bridge WITHIN himself. A man who served his nation as a Lieutenant Colonel in the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers.

In his final days, my Dad built a bridge to the other side. A bridge that enabled him to help others even as he helped himself.

A different sort of mettle appeared right when he needed it most.

Patricia Neal visited her eponymous rehabilitation center Fall 2008

Patricia Neal visited her eponymous rehabilitation center Fall 2008

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What do YOU do when you’re a Grump?

Stew and brew?

Or sit-up.

Look.

And cast kind words to those around you.

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Sj’s Pep Talk #5: Give Thanks looks at the Grump from another perspective.

I invite you to take a short break and click either on the link above or on the box below.

Afterward, please COMMENT and let me know what YOU do to bid the Grump adieu.

Regardless, I wish you well. I wish you Godspeed in your dance with the Grump.

Though the groove is round, there IS a side track which will open when we call it forth.

When we take the time to look, listen, and act.

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This post is dedicated to my niece on whose birthday my Dad rallied in order to be able to come home for the last time.

Happy Birthday Katie!

Mahalo for the use of your Grumpy Cat!